Posts

When Conflict Starts to Feel Harmful: Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse in Relationships

Image
by Nidya Ramirez Ibarra, LMFT Nidya Ramirez Ibarra is a bilingual (English/Spanish) Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who grew up in Escondido, CA. An immigrant and past community organizer, Nidya utilizes her knowledge and years of experience as a therapist to co-create a space to initiate change, gain insight, build skills, and establish support. Prior to joining the mental health team at MiraCosta College, among Nidya’s experiences was working for 8 years at a local non-profit with families, individuals, and children struggling with trauma due to intimate partner violence and sexual abuse. In addition to working with students in individual, relationship, and family counseling sessions, Nidya also facilitates MiraCosta’s support activities for undocumented/ mixed status students and their loved ones. The common idea about abusive relationships is a picture of something visible or loud, like screaming or physical violence. However, many unhealthy and abusive relationships do not ...
Post a Comment
Read more

So you don’t want to stop?

Image
  Practicing Harm Reduction in substance use and process/behavioral addictions By Jesus Mendez Carbajal, APCC Jesus is a bilingual (Spanish/English) Associate Professional Clinical Counselor (APCC) who holds a B.A. in Chicana/o Studies with a minor in Women’s Studies, and an M.S. in Counseling from SDSU’s Community Based Block (CBB) Multicultural Community Counseling and Social Justice Education Program. Jesus understands that while the issues people face are personally experienced, they’re also connected to systems of power, privilege and oppression and their impact extends beyond the self. Overall, Jesus is a passionate life-long student of healing, plant knowledge, emotional wellness, mental health, and spirituality. It’s ok if you don’t want to stop using a substance or stop a behavior--unless you’re causing harm to minors, dependent adults or elderly adults. Working with the assumption that one is not actively causing harm to others, can we sit with the reality that we don’t w...
Post a Comment
Read more

Resources for your recovery during the summer, and beyond

Image
By Tammah Watts(she), LMFT 111562 Tammah is a licensed therapist certified as a SMART Recovery Facilitator, Domestic Violence Advocate, Kripalu Mindful Outdoor Guide and Clinical Trauma Professional. She provides individual, relationship, and family counseling, and facilitates Health Services’ Recovery Group. As we come to the end of the Spring semester -first, CONGRATULATIONS for making it through! It's also a good time to consider what your recovery support will look like during the summer. To help you stay grounded and focused on your recovery goals -Consider these Tips and Tools and attendance at meetings -in person or online, local or national. Below, you'll find Resources to continue your recovery journey in ways that fit best including apps, meetings online and in-person, and more. Recovery Mutual Support Groups Don’t give up on recovery if one type of support group doesn’t work for you. Try another one! Secular and Non-12-Step Groups SMART Recovery (Self-Management and ...
1 comment
Read more

It’s Not Just Physical: Let’s Talk About Emotional Abuse

Image
  By Dorian Owens Dorian Owens is a graduate student at San Diego State University, pursuing a Master’s in Counseling through the Community-Based Block (CBB) Program, focusing on multicultural counseling and social justice. Dorian's approach to mental health care is rooted in humanistic, trauma-informed, and client-centered practices, emphasizing support for marginalized communities, particularly BIPOC populations. When people hear the term Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), they often picture physical harm. But for many college students, IPV can show up in quieter, less visible ways especially through emotional abuse. And because it doesn’t leave bruises, it’s often overlooked or misunderstood. What is Emotional Abuse? Emotional abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to control, manipulate, or undermine a partner’s sense of self. It can include constant criticism, gaslighting (making someone question their reality), jealousy, controlling who you see or talk to, or making you feel guil...
1 comment
Read more

Personal rules for drinking (and why they actually work better than willpower)

Image
By Abigail (Abby) Burd, LCSW, LCS 26867 Full-Time Faculty / Licensed Mental Health Counselor Abby is a bilingual (English/Spanish) clinical social worker with over 25 years experience in mental health. Abby is trained as a trainer in creating LGBTQIA+ safe zones, suicide prevention, and mindfulness. Abby has been a clinical supervisor on campuses and through her private practice since 2008, guiding the next generation of pre-licensed social workers, marriage and family therapists and clinical counselors. She is a culturally-humble, integrative clinician, drawing upon Interpersonal Psychotherapy, Motivational Interviewing, Solutions-Focused Therapy, mindfulness, and trauma-informed approaches. Abby is certified in Brainspotting (a somatic therapy for trauma and more) and Perinatal Mental Health. Let’s talk about something simple that gets overlooked when we talk about alcohol: personal rules. Not rules in the punitive sense. Not rules that are about judgment or “good” and “bad” beha...
Post a Comment
Read more

An Alternative View on Substance Abuse and Addiction

Image
By Ilan Navah (he), Mental Health Counselor Ilan Navah is a graduate student at Bastyr University, pursuing a Master’s degree in Counseling Psychology. He holds a Bachelor of Science in Holistic Nursing from California State Polytechnic University and brings over 13 years of diverse nursing experience including emergency medicine, public health, hospice, and integrative medicine. Guided by a belief in the mind–body–spirit connection, Ilan takes a holistic, integrative approach to care, supporting individuals in cultivating wholeness and well-being. In many communities, substance use is often seen as a matter of poor choices or lack of discipline. Gabor Maté, a physician and author who has worked closely with people struggling with addiction, offers a different way to understand it. He suggests that substance use is often connected to emotional pain, stress, and past trauma. In this view, addiction is not only about the substance. It is also about a person trying to cope with difficult...
Post a Comment
Read more

Understanding the Relationship between Trauma, Shame, and Substance Abuse

Image
By Julie Choi Trepkau (she), AMFT 147728 Julie is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (AMFT) who holds a Master's in Counseling from National University, and is dedicated to supporting individuals from diverse populations as they navigate life’s challenges, including anxiety, depression, trauma, life transitions, and relationship concerns.   Julie’s background is in yoga and education, having taught yoga internationally for over two decades as well as elementary school in Encinitas.       Understanding the bidirectional relationship between trauma, shame, and substance use helps explain why substances are often used as a way to cope. Shame can be described as an intense, deeply negative feeling about oneself, often tied to beliefs of worthlessness or inadequacy. It is closely linked to a range of unhealthy coping strategies, including substance use. Research has shown a strong connection between trauma—particularly experiences rooted in Adverse Childhood Ex...
Post a Comment
Read more